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Standard vs. Uniqueness


From experience I can testify that repelling uniqueness or differences is part of the Western culture and in general part of humanity. I was a foreigner in Germany for 10 years and now have lived in United States for 25+ years as a Persian. In Germany I would be assumed to be a Turk as Turkish people were allowed to migrate to that country as laborers after WWII to help rebuild the country and in the States, specially in Southwest, people assume I am Mexican or a Native Indian. Due to having experienced the [ugly] treatments most Westerner extend to these groups, I know that repelling anything that differs from expected standards is the norm within these societies. Simultaneously, I have been exposed to my own culture discriminatory behaviors as well. So naturally I have seen how we tend to repel anything that differs from our programmed belief system. However, it has been utmost harsh! As a privileged Persian who would have been brought up within my groups, I would have never experienced these kind of unjust behaviors existing within our societies/cultures. So I would have used/misused my powers to bully the lesser privileged groups.

We can beat our programmed belief systems. I lucked out by isolating and experiencing life differently so I can report to you that if we fail to control the natural course of our thinking pattern that is motivated by a false belief system [programmed], we will fail to ever see unity! Why? Isn’t that pretty obvious!? Our environments have changed drastically ever since the internet. We now are aware of much more than our brains are capable of handling. Globalization has caused many clashes among the various groups that we previously were unaware of. Because of our inability to process all that information, being mislead and slipping into the wrong path due to our faulty believe systems is easily doable by those who can play us. That is disastrous! Clashes of opinions are not be feared as only exchanging in a healthy manner will propel us as humanity ahead.

There are so many examples to cite to point out a few related issues presently playing mind games with all of us. An example, Opiate Addiction Epidemic is on the rise because the differences that are challenging our learned/programmed standards ARE above average. These discrepancies are leading to massive stress and depressions. Regretfully a society that is money motivated and has learned to remain focused on money, can easily be corrupted by its leaders that we rely on. So we go to our doctors who we believe are the experts [leaders] we can trust. Yet our doctors are motivated to make a living. Pharmaceutical companies send out account managers who are charming and enticing. They tell our doctors that the more they prescribe of their medications [recorded & reported by pharmacies], the more prestige and money they will receive. At times we run into good people who will never partake in such a corrupt system, yet can one trust blindly? He or she might be just selling you in such a cunning manner that you will never know. Or they too might have been convinced that their learned conventional education is the only way to address issues!? I have been there. In 2015, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. The neurologist who I was told to see, scared me to death by insisting that I must start pharmaceutical treatments as soon as possible to prevent future relapses. He cheerfully expressed that he had my best interest in mind with his serious recommendations. Since I had worked for a pharmaceutical corporation and knew how the system works, despite initially loosing it, I went into research. Not even one week passed by till I was being bombarded with calls from a prominent pharmaceutical company specializing in MS patients. I talked to a very kind concierge nurse exclusive assigned to me to support me. I felt special and a sense of calmness, believing that she truly cared for me. But in my research I found out why she was motivated to do this. Not to say that she personally lacked compassion, the truth, however, remains that she was an employee of a pharmaceutical company who has been advised to execute her job professionally. Not to dismiss that people lack sincerity but maybe it was just a presented show to comply with her duties!? Come to find out, I would have been a 100k client annually to them. Of course they will assign a concierge nurse [customer service representative] who probably handles so many more 100k patients for her company.

The worse thing is that if I had opted to listen to my doc blindly, I would have been hooked on depression medications and who knows what else to manage the side affects of the MS drug. An official patient in the system to generate money. In general, any medical problem should not immediately be combated with medication, including depression However, standards compel us to rely on this false belief system that has been ingrained [programmed] into us.

To make a long story short, I even went back a year later, thinking that my good health and weight-loss achieved would convince my doc to adopt kinder and gentler ways of treatments that he could advocate to his other MS patients. He actually arrogantly repelled and dismissed me as I did not provide the relationship that he had accepted mentally. Either his doings were due to true arrogance, cause how dare me to challenge his gained years of expertise, or he was truly corrupted and only interested in working with people that supply to his motives without questioning his authority. Regardless of his reasons, I could care less as I am grateful I relied on my own wisdom handling the situation that had such a profound effect on my well-being. The point is always take into consideration your own well-being and do not allow anyone to mislead you, either knowingly nor unknowingly.

We must acknowledge that our inability to consolidate our differences to co-exist in this global world,  causes damages to ourselves and the society in large. Because we unknowingly [automatically] engage in combating/conflicting behaviors just to justify our world to our set standards. If you pay attention, you will notice that battling differences in this world is lately the standards that’s why shit is hitting the fan.  It happens between genders, left and rights, ethnics, religious groups, country, and on and one and on. Gosh people defend their opinions, belief systems, teams, groups, and everything will all their powers with zero regards to a greater good. These behaviors are automated in compliance with our natural tendencies to behave like animals rather than cultured and controlled. That’s why we as humans have been chosen to be the top of the animal kingdom. Engaging in any uncontrolled behaviors will destroy our resources including us self. In order to store harmony and recreate unity in all realms of life, small and large, we must learn to embrace differences. How to do that when there is so much complexity confusing messages, injustice, and the never ending problems among all the different groups and in the world? It can be difficult at times to navigate through all that is transpiring around us and it’s easy to crawl back into our known belief systems [standards] to hide and numb ourselves. But don’t give up as there is a methodical way out. Yes, it is lots of work. But so worth the peace the harmony of your mind lends. How have I reached such a state of mind? Despite wanting to give up trying, I continued to remain objective in life, always sought the truth despite its ugliness at times, stayed focused on what has been enhancing my life, and acted out of kindness with the knowledge I was exposed to and the powers I was given. Many times my persona has been misjudged due to handling things myself as well as issues differently, against the set standards. However, I have continued to successfully exist in such a manner and can confidently tell you that it is the only way of moving forward in this environment. May the fittest survive is one of our universal laws that we must abide by to prevail. Norms and standards as expected are being challenged in today’s world. Only learning to embrace our differences and remain aware of the truth to control issues is our solution to heal as a global society. Together we can heal and better manage our resources to unit. It starts within and must entail adopting co-existence strategies. Learning to embrace our differences [be it internal or external] is the only way to overcome chaos/disaster to restore peace, harmony and unity. Do it!

Love and Blessings ❤️


Enlightening Life Lessons

Entlightening LessonIt’s been a hard ride for me thus far. However, I am so grateful for having finally discovered the balance to my sanity and happiness. So it is from personal experiences that I am writing these lessons that have helped me. Learn and apply them as soon as possible if you want to find some contentment before it is too late. Life is too beautiful and precious to be wasted. Here they are:

Control – Never try to control the outcome of any situation if it’s not meant to be. Accept, harvest the positives, and move on. Sometimes situations turn out the way you want them to and sometimes they don’t. Everyone knows what I am talking about. Excessive emotions condition us. Do yourself a favor and never put too much expectations into any outcome. Unmeant expectations result in emotions that permanently condition us and keep us from future surprising outcomes. This lesson is very well taught and practiced in sales/business. Go into any situation with good intentions and don’t be mad if it doesn’t pan out they way you had hoped for.

Anger – Drop anger. Accept that life is unfair. Just be good to yourself. If you are too busy coming up with excuses as to why things are less than favorable to your taste, then you are a problem. You are not adding goodness to this world. You are just moaning and whining. If you want a good life, apply yourself and leave anybody and anything or any situation better than before. That’s what the world needs. Not whiners and those who are hurt forever and give themselves permission to feel hurt and hurt others. Experience joy by being a pleasure. It is truly all about love. Love and forgive instead.

Judgment – This one doesn’t serve you what so ever. It’s not your job to imply your way of thinking and doing unto others. Nor could you assume that anyone has the same thinking pattern as you would act or react. Just observe and simply see if there is any mutual ground. And if not, it’s OK. Cool to know one’s preference.

These principles that I continue to teach myself have improved my life a lot. I hope you too find balance and contentment. Practice does make the master. Never give up trying.

Love and Blessings ❤️



Keys to Success

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Picture was taken in 2007, when grandma and I visited NYC.

Honestly the best attributes that ever have happened to me are clarity, curiosity, positive thinking, making the best out of the moment, love, and having grandiose motivators/reasons. Of course it cannot be denied that I have had the lineage, aptitude, and opportunities. However, in this age that’s irrelevant. The only thing that I have done is to harvest all our natural given gifts, gather strategies and apply, and continue to practice/hone over a lifetime. And I am almost 50. To tell yourself that you cannot do it because of your lack of aptitude, skills, background or any other reasons, conditions, and values, is being ungrateful. But more that anything, these are excuses and will paralyze you. Empower yourself with all that strengthens you and elevates your life. Learn strategies of how to, practice them like a muscle, and you too will be rewarded. Promise!

Positive Thoughts Empower. Negatives cripple!

Everyone can be successful if they want and chose to. It’s all a mastery. There are many giants out there who teach these principles as well. Tony Robbins always comes to my mind. One of my many guides. Find the ones that speak to you and learn.

Study and practice!

Always see the glass half full, practice to replace negative thoughts with positives to empower yourself, at least as best as you can and are comfortable to, make the best out of everything, live in the moment, challenge yourself once in a while, manage/control your reactions to external world, and be prepared to work hard/hone your game, the better you do it, the more value you add. Controlling/harvesting emotions is a tough one. However, know that tolerating negative emotions, lead to misery.  Besides most of your emotions are due to misunderstandings. If a story would be evaluated externally, by a qualified aid, you would find out that the story or stories that you are telling yourself are crippling you. Turn those around and always appreciate the positives that empower you. Love yourself. This one is multifaceted yet doable. Believe me. I did it and so did and do many other people around the world. Be your own best friend.

Know that it’s work. I have been in development since my childhood. I bet you will not need to work as hard as I did to find enlightenment if you chose to.

Do upon others as you would want done onto you. Spread love.

Love and Blessings ❤️