From experience I can testify that repelling uniqueness or differences is part of the Western culture and in general part of humanity. I was a foreigner in Germany for 10 years and now have lived in United States for 25+ years as a Persian. In Germany I would be assumed to be a Turk as Turkish people were allowed to migrate to that country as laborers after WWII to help rebuild the country and in the States, specially in Southwest, people assume I am Mexican or a Native Indian. Due to having experienced the [ugly] treatments most Westerner extend to these groups, I know that repelling anything that differs from expected standards is the norm within these societies. Simultaneously, I have been exposed to my own culture discriminatory behaviors as well. So naturally I have seen how we tend to repel anything that differs from our programmed belief system. However, it has been utmost harsh! As a privileged Persian who would have been brought up within my groups, I would have never experienced these kind of unjust behaviors existing within our societies/cultures. So I would have used/misused my powers to bully the lesser privileged groups.
We can beat our programmed belief systems. I lucked out by isolating and experiencing life differently so I can report to you that if we fail to control the natural course of our thinking pattern that is motivated by a false belief system [programmed], we will fail to ever see unity! Why? Isn’t that pretty obvious!? Our environments have changed drastically ever since the internet. We now are aware of much more than our brains are capable of handling. Globalization has caused many clashes among the various groups that we previously were unaware of. Because of our inability to process all that information, being mislead and slipping into the wrong path due to our faulty believe systems is easily doable by those who can play us. That is disastrous! Clashes of opinions are not be feared as only exchanging in a healthy manner will propel us as humanity ahead.
There are so many examples to cite to point out a few related issues presently playing mind games with all of us. An example, Opiate Addiction Epidemic is on the rise because the differences that are challenging our learned/programmed standards ARE above average. These discrepancies are leading to massive stress and depressions. Regretfully a society that is money motivated and has learned to remain focused on money, can easily be corrupted by its leaders that we rely on. So we go to our doctors who we believe are the experts [leaders] we can trust. Yet our doctors are motivated to make a living. Pharmaceutical companies send out account managers who are charming and enticing. They tell our doctors that the more they prescribe of their medications [recorded & reported by pharmacies], the more prestige and money they will receive. At times we run into good people who will never partake in such a corrupt system, yet can one trust blindly? He or she might be just selling you in such a cunning manner that you will never know. Or they too might have been convinced that their learned conventional education is the only way to address issues!? I have been there. In 2015, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. The neurologist who I was told to see, scared me to death by insisting that I must start pharmaceutical treatments as soon as possible to prevent future relapses. He cheerfully expressed that he had my best interest in mind with his serious recommendations. Since I had worked for a pharmaceutical corporation and knew how the system works, despite initially loosing it, I went into research. Not even one week passed by till I was being bombarded with calls from a prominent pharmaceutical company specializing in MS patients. I talked to a very kind concierge nurse exclusive assigned to me to support me. I felt special and a sense of calmness, believing that she truly cared for me. But in my research I found out why she was motivated to do this. Not to say that she personally lacked compassion, the truth, however, remains that she was an employee of a pharmaceutical company who has been advised to execute her job professionally. Not to dismiss that people lack sincerity but maybe it was just a presented show to comply with her duties!? Come to find out, I would have been a 100k client annually to them. Of course they will assign a concierge nurse [customer service representative] who probably handles so many more 100k patients for her company.
The worse thing is that if I had opted to listen to my doc blindly, I would have been hooked on depression medications and who knows what else to manage the side affects of the MS drug. An official patient in the system to generate money. In general, any medical problem should not immediately be combated with medication, including depression However, standards compel us to rely on this false belief system that has been ingrained [programmed] into us.
To make a long story short, I even went back a year later, thinking that my good health and weight-loss achieved would convince my doc to adopt kinder and gentler ways of treatments that he could advocate to his other MS patients. He actually arrogantly repelled and dismissed me as I did not provide the relationship that he had accepted mentally. Either his doings were due to true arrogance, cause how dare me to challenge his gained years of expertise, or he was truly corrupted and only interested in working with people that supply to his motives without questioning his authority. Regardless of his reasons, I could care less as I am grateful I relied on my own wisdom handling the situation that had such a profound effect on my well-being. The point is always take into consideration your own well-being and do not allow anyone to mislead you, either knowingly nor unknowingly.
We must acknowledge that our inability to consolidate our differences to co-exist in this global world, causes damages to ourselves and the society in large. Because we unknowingly [automatically] engage in combating/conflicting behaviors just to justify our world to our set standards. If you pay attention, you will notice that battling differences in this world is lately the standards that’s why shit is hitting the fan. It happens between genders, left and rights, ethnics, religious groups, country, and on and one and on. Gosh people defend their opinions, belief systems, teams, groups, and everything will all their powers with zero regards to a greater good. These behaviors are automated in compliance with our natural tendencies to behave like animals rather than cultured and controlled. That’s why we as humans have been chosen to be the top of the animal kingdom. Engaging in any uncontrolled behaviors will destroy our resources including us self. In order to store harmony and recreate unity in all realms of life, small and large, we must learn to embrace differences. How to do that when there is so much complexity confusing messages, injustice, and the never ending problems among all the different groups and in the world? It can be difficult at times to navigate through all that is transpiring around us and it’s easy to crawl back into our known belief systems [standards] to hide and numb ourselves. But don’t give up as there is a methodical way out. Yes, it is lots of work. But so worth the peace the harmony of your mind lends. How have I reached such a state of mind? Despite wanting to give up trying, I continued to remain objective in life, always sought the truth despite its ugliness at times, stayed focused on what has been enhancing my life, and acted out of kindness with the knowledge I was exposed to and the powers I was given. Many times my persona has been misjudged due to handling things myself as well as issues differently, against the set standards. However, I have continued to successfully exist in such a manner and can confidently tell you that it is the only way of moving forward in this environment. May the fittest survive is one of our universal laws that we must abide by to prevail. Norms and standards as expected are being challenged in today’s world. Only learning to embrace our differences and remain aware of the truth to control issues is our solution to heal as a global society. Together we can heal and better manage our resources to unit. It starts within and must entail adopting co-existence strategies. Learning to embrace our differences [be it internal or external] is the only way to overcome chaos/disaster to restore peace, harmony and unity. Do it!
In this piece I wanted to share some of the short cuts [winning strategies] that I have learned and organized over my lifetime that help one to maximize, optimize, and utilize resources. I truly believe that I am just a divine vehicle as all of us are, just channeling a greater purpose. Yes, I now know that there is a higher power. And it wants us all to do well and live in prosperity. Only if we could manage to stay true to ourselves, will we be able to experience bliss. That is a lot of work. However, don’t despair if your factors are not as you wished them to be, I know that you can always start from NOW. A great strategy that has lead to many success stories of our times. Know that we all have the power in today’s world to tap into all our resources to make it great! Our perspectives, doings, sayings, and reactions can damage or enrich. So apply these strategies if you care to steer this mess we are presently experiencing toward a brighter destiny. Having said that, below are the strategies I was referring to:
Love Thyself First
Healing yourself is the best investment ever. Do it guilt free. We women have even a higher responsibility because we are the center of it all as we control our village. Enriching yourself will enrich your village. I used to always be ashamed for doing something for myself. However, now I am glad I did. Surely you can relate. Learning to adopt self loving practices is complex but so worth it.
Refrain from Judgment
Assuming based on one’s conditionings and upbringing is misleading and keeps one framed in a box. Judgement leads to fear and fear will prevent progress. I am not kidding. There are hundred of examples I could cite.
Embrace Change and Adversity
Don’t resist change. It is inevitable as we all know this fact. It truly deepens our soul and beautifies. The sooner you stop moaning about how bad you got it, the sooner you can solve a problem. Never ever fear addressing and seeking to solve a problem! If you fail to address and solve, sooner or later that problem will become your miserable reality. What do I mean? An example is today’s agonizing political environment. The country is divided. However, we have no other choice than to accept it as done. Yet, we are all obligated to pick our lessons and effectively prevent such a mess from repeating itself in history. I, as many as you, felt truly hijacked and mislead. That initially lead to frustrations and anger. All damaging behaviors. But I decided that I will no longer allow external factors to run me. My mission became learning how to embrace the presented adversity. I recognized that we all needed to learn. What are the lessons? Important lessons are that we are not to blindly believe, develop awareness, and remain vigilant. There are so many additional personal stories that validate our need to embrace change and view adversities as learning and growth opportunities. To see how this strategy has helped me to propel, read Adversity Deepens and Beautifies article.
Appreciate the Beauty
Gratitude is truly a winning attitude in life. Ever since I started appreciating my gifts and blessings, did I develop confidence. Do it and you too will see good things unfold for you. We all know it but are we walking the talk? I think not. I could elaborate on that topic forever and ever. However, I will cite a few examples to show you how we all unknowingly contribute to damaging ourselves and our environment. All that because we fail to follow the Universal rules. Sorry for bashing some but for the sake of educating, I do not hesitate. As many of you know I have been striving to break the mold to establish myself as an independent writer, wanting to educate and entertain as I firmly believe knowledge is power and that I am a great storyteller, self thought through real life experiences and accomplishments. My tribe, however, never ever empowered nor supported me. In fact I continued to experience the opposite. Lots of passive aggressive behaviors to imply that I suck and should give up trying. Perhaps I misinterpreted and internalized their dis-empowering, discouraging, and unsupportive conducts!? I allowed people and their reactions to dictate my mood. So naturally my progress in life has been drastically procrastinated. We outlaw people that don’t fit our molds and standards. Sometimes I wonder if it is our jealousy that prevents us from making our resources available to others!? Or maybe misjudgments and assumptions of someone’s character and values!? Fact is that majority of people will go out of their way to prevent one’s success! There are tons of examples that I have personally experienced throughout my life. Here is one: I met a successful coach/author to ask her if she could kindly extend her resources so that I can establish myself. I truly thought she is a kind person who is truly interested in enriching her community, specially since I had observed her progress for 10+ years. However, to my dismay, I learned quickly that I was naive. The truth is that she had displayed throughout multiple interactions that I am not welcomed in her circles. The dumb ass me, however, continued to remain naive and firmly believed that only if I would show my sincerity, that I have all intentions to pay her back for her kindness, she will change her awkward resistance and help me. Was I wrong! In an attempt to intimidate and halt my progress, she brought her husband with as she assumed that I am shy and would not express myself. Additionally she continued to try to convince me that I was wrong with my entrepreneurial endeavors. Initially I didn’t think much of it as I thought she just lacked innovation. In hindsight, however, I know that she did what she did due to a few human conditionings that we all suffer from. We all feel stronger in a group and thereof misjudge our powers. Just in this example there are at least 4 mankind flaws we all suffer from. Misjudgment, jealousy, competition, and missed opportunities to collaborate spread to expand. Initially I was saddened, disappointed, and discouraged. However, the truth is she still is an awesome mother, wife, author, coach; Positively inspires and a teaches. So I decided that it is okay for some folks to repel you if they assess you as not within their tribe. Regardless of how hurt and discouraged you may feel, always appreciate the beautify within everything. She truly has been inspiring to my journey. Thereof I will always appreciate that.
Always act from now and forgive yourself and all external factors. It will excel your prosperity and more importantly prevent irrevocable damages. We all have witnessed miscommunications and provocations that have ended up in uncalled actions. Forgive because all that has hurt you or is still hurting you motivates you to take actions, builds character, and deepened your wisdom. And anybody who does not want to embrace you, should not be a big deal. They just are not on your team. Forgive and move on. As all happens as it should. Harboring ill feelings will only harm you. Know that people are good at the bottom of their heart and do only because they do not know better. A popular wisdom that I gladly adopted and believe in. Side note: I do not advocate for organized religion. However, all gospels, doctrines, religions, and spiritual practices carry deep wisdom that we must combine, adopt, and practice in our daily actions and saying to achieve greatness. Just believing in one entity will limit your resource. No intentions to insult. Just citing a fact that I hope will inspire you to adjust your perspectives and evolve so that you may manage all better to steer your destiny.
Do Good, Always
Spreading love will bring prosperity. Care for how your actions/reactions affect your destiny; Our destiny. Don’t forget the ripple effect of physic. All is about damaging or enriching energies. There are tons of examples for this one. I do want to cite some samples to bring awareness to all of us about how we all are guilty. Jealousy and competition are huge flaws that are damaging us. Subconsciously practicing these flaws not only infests and conditions our psyche, it is royally damaging. The other day I was watching the news. A couple was being interviewed. Between those two, he was more attractive and well spoken. You could see how she suddenly had become insecure because her man was badly trying to impress the attractive anchor lady. Of course it is understandable. I have been so many times myself in that situation. Due to my obesity, I lacked confidence and thereof insecure in presence of my attractive husband. So whenever I felt insecure I would make a stink, get into verbal fights and arguments, and agonize myself because my husband dared to eye a more attractive woman. How dare him. Evaluating my reactions and actions in hindsight, I know my manipulative conducts were quite damaging. But I forgive myself as I was executing subconsciously due to my conditinings. The true story was that most men will always think with their dick and if they have not learned to control their actions and reactions, will visually react to a more attractive person. It truly is no reason for jealousy nor insecurity as love is voluntarily, not forced. A good man will look and react but will always come back to his anchor. Remain secure and control the situation. If his autopilot actions are hurtful to you, just express yourself. If he doesn’t honor it, then you know sooner than later. From personal experiences I can tell you that the more you adopt that philosophy, that love is voluntarily and unforced, the liberated you will feel. Thereof do not engage in any manipulative behaviors to justify your own insecurities and/or jealousy. Another super damaging behavior is that we women are still backstabbing each other to compete with one another for attention. How stupid. Don’t we realize that we are unknowingly conditioning ourselves. Not only are we still sending sexiest messages to our fellow sisters, we are also teaching the upcoming generation by being a role model. If we strive to be treated equally, we must learn to manage these bad behaviors.
Maximize your Resource
This is huge. A huge reliable resource is you. Invest in yourself and I promise you will be ahead. Train your brain. Don’t be afraid to standup for yourself no matter how much resistance you face. Only authenticity will set you free. Whatever truly bothers your core, distance yourself as it is OK. I left my family behind. To this date that actions is at times being challenged and questioned by people as they believe one should remain loyal to a born in tribe and if one breaks free, one should feel guilty. And I did for years. Feeling guilty and lonely. However, deep down I always knew I was doing the right thing in contrary to how people assessed my actions as shrewd. Another practice to optimize your resources is to find your tribe and learn to collaborate. That means people you are at ease with to have a dialogue with as only together can we grow.
Grow and Evolve
Growing and evolving is the only way you can keep ahead in this times. Change is happening rapidly. If you don’t rise up and evolve, you will suffer. Knowledge is power. So never fail to grow, evolve, and naturally sacrifice to achieve improvements. This includes your sincere ability to admit to mistakes and make a conscious effort to rectify. If you attempt to hide your flaws, you will commit to other lies to cover and/or justify. However, with that you will continue to lie to yourself which is another damaging flaw due to its ripple effect.
The more divided you are on your perspectives, goals, and missions, the harder it will be for you to genuinely tune into your true potential. It is your job to properly listen to signs and identify your purpose. If you do not move in alignment within your path and purpose, you will dearly pay. I know it as I have committed that mistake so many times in my life. I don’t regret as each one of the experiences has had teachable moments and has made me into who I am. In my case in served a purpose as I love being a life scholar that breaks down facts and shares them in writing. However, I noticed we all wander off because of our fearful self-talks that divert and mislead us. If you want to be more efficient and reach your destiny faster, eliminate possibilities quickly to make choices and stick to them. It expedites your progress.
This is a huge one. Comparision truly will weaken your abilities to advance from where you are. Due to this very damaging conditioning, we are halting our progress as individuals and collectively. I know it as people have always had a reaction to me due to being a little bit more advanced. Within these past few years, I dared to utilize all my available resources to transform myself. Ever since, it has gotten even more tense for me. The withdrawal of friendships, support, love, and kindness has been very cruel and hurtful. I, however, wanted to succed even more since I am rebelious by nature. Glad Universe gifted me with that attitude as it served me in contrary to how my surrounding unknowingly was trying to force me into believing that being rebelious is stupid. Look at comparission from a different angle. Maturity and mankind advancement vary. We accept that among children. As we all know girls advance much faster. Yet we are unable to accept that in adults as it has caused gender discrepancies due to repellant attitudes of men towards women due to comparison and jealousies. The genders are battling it out and so are there are massive competition among us women as well men. All ridiculous animalistic behaviors. As we all have been brainwashed to believe that comparison is okay as it motivates. Wrong. Do do not get upset nor intimated if you run into a more advanced human being who has firgured how to utilize his/her gifts. Make it your mission to learn, rather than repel or jump to assumptions to justify your behaviors. Develop individual awareness of how your abilities are to accept and pace at ease without insecurities so that you may continue to maximize your potential. It is all about healing yourself to collectively propel.
Projecting your believe system onto people or circumstances is truly hurtful. I have seen and experienced this so many times. People assume that I am a lesbian because I do not engage in flirtious behaviors with men or am too town-boyish!? And I have been labled as unfriendly or standoffish because I am an introvert who has learned through a painful life trajectory not to blindly trust as I know that there is always a hidden agenda that drives us. You go to doctor’s office, believing that there is a compassionate expert who wants you to do well and yet he/she is only motivated to profit and expects to be respected/adored for just being a doctor. Terrible! There are tons of other examples of how projecting our own believe system onto others is misleading you and pushing others into a defensive/combative mechanism. It creates anger and resentments in us and our communities. I truly thought to myself that I should maybe be a lesbian since everyone was insinuating that I fit the bill. But I am not. I don’t care anymore for being as I am. One does NOT need to be forced into any mold for being different. Having adopted this strategy too helps me as well. I no longer assume anything about anyone unless they show their true face. And that’s okay too. If someone is not your tribe or has a hidden agenda, don’t behave hostile. Move on. Live and let live.
Trust and Faith
It has been difficult for me to trust and have faith. However, it is a winning tool to adopt. It also is true. If you develop a pure heart, learn your lessons properly, and do your best to do the right thing in life, Universe will always be there for you. That’s the Law of Attraction that’s known and practiced by many. How do I know it? Well, I always have been seeking to identify all my resources to excel, as we all do. Yes, I am blessed for the gift of curiousity that propelled me to discover this major resource. There are tons of example of how one can tap into them. All I did is to closely learn how it’s done. It isn’t that simple to master. However, whatever you continue to practice, you will eventually master. Another added benefit of having faith and trusting that all will be as it should be is so comforting that you no longer will blame nor judge yourself for mistakes. Just remain calm and trust that you are whole as you are.
Higher power and Universal engergies exist. Believing is divine and will make you prosper. Kindness is what has made humanity in this animal kingdom propel and progress. Of course there are many other gifts. Another powerful one is our brain. My gosh. It is another great gift we all have been blessed with. That’s why we must continue to train our brain. But training the brain without compassion will cause corruption. There are tons of studies out there about the correlation between heart and brain. The fonder/purer your heart, the more brain power you will have. Sex and money are sold wrongfully to all of us as a holy grail of power. However, do not forget that kindness is preached in all doctrines. Do not be mislead nor forced by any set standards to disobey this universal law. Any misalignment will come back to you. And yes, if you tell yourself that your unkind actions and doings are okay as they are in alignment with set standards of business and/or any other believe system, you are misleading yourself. Care and the Universe will care for you. If we fail that, we will collectively fail. And failing we are if we don’t pay attention to what is bothering us and fail to actively to aim to rectify. The saying “Failing to plan equals to planning to fail” is so true. I know there are people, including me, who continue to beg us to return the direction of our ship. And with knowledge you can evolve and accomplish that. Be among the pioneers to harvest all powers to excel. Do it!
Ever since the solar eclipse on August 21st, the divine downloads have been extreme. It has felt like I have been in a trance. Thoughts and ideas continue to flow. I used to believe that I was clever. Yes, there was always an esoteric part of me who has believed in harvesting all Universal resources to achieve life milestones. So naturally I easily would make a conscious effort to learn all strategies to propel. That attitude has served me because it has motivated me to continue educating myself. Now, however, I know that there is a greater power steering it. I am humbled to be a chosen one among million of other greats that are spreading love and kindness in this world to enrich. So do not be afraid to wake up, develop awareness, nor do limit yourself due to lack of knowledge. Meet your higher self. This guy explains it so well what it is.
It is truly who you are and what your values are. As I mentioned previously, I do not believe in organized religion. I condemn that organization because they have become corrupted and power hungry and thereof are misleading us. Nor delusional about some weird, non-existing Universal powers. Millions have felt the divine energy that has forced changes in all of us within these past few years. Victor Oddo has been a virtual guide to me. Listen to what he has to say about these divine energies referred to.
I would have lost it many times if it wasn’t for the divine energies that would lead me to various available resources that have helped me to remain sane and navigate through this maze called life. It has been a blessing that I have learned these skills due to experienced hardships. Exhausting at times. But so worth it.
Lastly if you cannot be convinced that spirituality nor energies exists, here is a religious explanation of how it all correlates.
All of these included resources are to educate you. What qualifies me to preach, is my love and passion to observe and study life, organize strategies, and write to make it all better. I have done that my entire life and am getting closer to managing it efficiently.
No matter how you aim to reach greatness, may you always succeed.
Within these past few years I have gone thru many transitions and have become aware of this fact. It is true.
How do I know so? Well, I transitioned from being overweight and unattractive to being normal weight, attractive, and more appreciative of my surroundings as well as all my blessings. As result my community has become quite competitive and wants to outdo me and thereof each individual within my immediate community is having a reaction. That’s awesome!!! Initially I was puzzled and hurt. Now, however, I see a pattern and regardless as why people are compelled to be better, I greatly take joy in it and at times even amuse myself. As I have painfully learned, it’s all in how one evaluates all that transpires. So I chose to change my perspective. Instead of viewing it as negative, I chose to view and feel it as positive. It’s liberating. Try it 📌
Having identified that fact, try to be less reactive to people’s small jealousies and insecurities and appreciate the positive you set in motion as being a role model to your community by loving and standing up for yourself. That idea will catch on and ignite eventually. Change can be so painful yet so worth it. Dare to do it.
It is from personal experiences that I now know and feel it daily that universe is actively guiding us. Finally I get and feel the spirituality wisdom we all read about, yet dismiss its validity due to our formed believes. It’s however up to us to learn how to read these signs properly to find and decode them correctly. These signs are within all realms of existence. Paying attention to details and being analytical has helped me to finally discover them. The trick to tap into them is however to silence the internal voices formed based on assumptions, conditionings, and regretfully influenced by surrounding external feedback. These voices can be misleading as they cause us to prematurely judge and form our own perceptions without validation. Thought patterns will propel us to engage in aligning actions; Actions that could financially, physically and/or emotionally be costly. I have committed that mistake so many times in my life and have dearly paid for my mistakes. Yet super grateful that they just remained painful yet repairable. The good thing is that I as a result have learned my lessons that I must adjust and readjust my strategies always if I want to make it sanely through this game of life. Grateful I survived each battle as they made me who I am today.
Universe is actively guiding and supporting us.
The point is: No matter where you are at and how bad you assess things to be, as long as you are not dead, universe will always allow you to fall back on it if you chose to do so. However, sometimes the fight is harder and longer than you believe is fair. That means, however, you have failed to learn your lessons all along your life and thereof it will be longer to readjust your path. However, acceptance and counting your blessings is a great start to readjusting your strategies. The sooner you get it, the less painful your life journey will be.
I know I cannot convince all skeptics that I am speaking the truth. However, I feel obligated to say and write it as it is our choice to be authentic or not. I for one am choosing to take advantage of all our given gifts to manage my life. Lately many people claim to have become spiritual. Yet the truth is that they are not walking their talks. Not believing that the consequence of discrepancy between “talks” and ” walks” is damaging. Some believe in karma. But it is not karma. It’s your earlier doings, sayings, and thoughts causing issues. That includes also negatively painting/judging someone or something. These thoughts, saying, and doings translate into energies and vibrate into universe and bounce sooner or later back. The science of universe is a fact. Majority of us cannot wrap our heads around such game changing fact. And those who know about them, elected to remain silence to prevent conflicts. Our scientists too confirm the existence of universe’s mystery, yet do not know how it plays a role in the bigger picture. But that should not keep you as an unbeliever as it doesn’t serve you. As we know, we do not embrace the truth without hard proofs. However, what puzzles me is that we humans know from history that we unknowingly engage in wrong doings by miss assessing and repelling facts until they become obvious. Having observed that should alert us to be a little bit more vigilant! Haven’t we advanced enough to have developed such awareness? Why not change the pattern instead of immediately jumping the gun to form our own assumptions and remain righteous too and defend our believes or even fight for them, ignoring the facts? I DO NOT GET IT. However, to each their own. It is not my job to piece myself so that surrounding skeptics and critics understand. Yet it is upsetting to observe people in power with the ability to enrich, yet acting, behaving, and saying wrong and as a result harming themselves, their community, and a bigger village. All due to their own non-serving believe systems and behaviors. Since change starts within, as soon as you change your ways, you will no longer tolerate people who advocate and fight for OLD ways of existence and your change will force your community to change as well. It will catch on. Time has moved on and so must we. Regardless of when you buy into it or not, just know that you are the one who has to live with consequences of your believes and their doings.
May we all be somewhere someday soon that allows us to remain balanced, less agitated, always grateful for all our blessings, and peaceful and content.
Universe has been always there for you. It’s your job to navigate life as efficiently as possible. Law of Attraction is not a story. It is a fact. If you need detailed explanation as what it is, read the meaning of Law of Attraction on their official site. However, in short, if you heal yourself, you will be gifted with other powers as well. There is always a reason as to why. The reason is once you heal yourself, you will be of value to any community you enter into as you teach them. The better of a teacher you are, the more powers you will have. That’s why Universe will gift you with this unique powers. It feels great to attract things into your life. However, you must understand that it takes a lot of work and discipline. Learn how to if you want to experience balance and contentment in life as we are all meant to have. I have done it and you can do it too.
It’s been a hard ride for me thus far. However, I am so grateful for having finally discovered the balance to my sanity and happiness. So it is from personal experiences that I am writing these lessons that have helped me. Learn and apply them as soon as possible if you want to find some contentment before it is too late. Life is too beautiful and precious to be wasted. Here they are:
Control – Never try to control the outcome of any situation if it’s not meant to be. Accept, harvest the positives, and move on. Sometimes situations turn out the way you want them to and sometimes they don’t. Everyone knows what I am talking about. Excessive emotions condition us. Do yourself a favor and never put too much expectations into any outcome. Unmeant expectations result in emotions that permanently condition us and keep us from future surprising outcomes. This lesson is very well taught and practiced in sales/business. Go into any situation with good intentions and don’t be mad if it doesn’t pan out they way you had hoped for.
Anger – Drop anger. Accept that life is unfair. Just be good to yourself. If you are too busy coming up with excuses as to why things are less than favorable to your taste, then you are a problem. You are not adding goodness to this world. You are just moaning and whining. If you want a good life, apply yourself and leave anybody and anything or any situation better than before. That’s what the world needs. Not whiners and those who are hurt forever and give themselves permission to feel hurt and hurt others. Experience joy by being a pleasure. It is truly all about love. Love and forgive instead.
Judgment – This one doesn’t serve you what so ever. It’s not your job to imply your way of thinking and doing unto others. Nor could you assume that anyone has the same thinking pattern as you would act or react. Just observe and simply see if there is any mutual ground. And if not, it’s OK. Cool to know one’s preference.
These principles that I continue to teach myself have improved my life a lot. I hope you too find balance and contentment. Practice does make the master. Never give up trying.
Honestly the best attributes that ever have happened to me are clarity, curiosity, positive thinking, making the best out of the moment, love, and having grandiose motivators/reasons. Of course it cannot be denied that I have had the lineage, aptitude, and opportunities. However, in this age that’s irrelevant. The only thing that I have done is to harvest all our natural given gifts, gather strategies and apply, and continue to practice/hone over a lifetime. And I am almost 50. To tell yourself that you cannot do it because of your lack of aptitude, skills, background or any other reasons, conditions, and values, is being ungrateful. But more that anything, these are excuses and will paralyze you. Empower yourself with all that strengthens you and elevates your life. Learn strategies of how to, practice them like a muscle, and you too will be rewarded. Promise!
Positive Thoughts Empower. Negatives cripple!
Everyone can be successful if they want and chose to. It’s all a mastery. There are many giants out there who teach these principles as well. Tony Robbins always comes to my mind. One of my many guides. Find the ones that speak to you and learn.
Study and practice!
Always see the glass half full, practice to replace negative thoughts with positives to empower yourself, at least as best as you can and are comfortable to, make the best out of everything, live in the moment, challenge yourself once in a while, manage/control your reactions to external world, and be prepared to work hard/hone your game, the better you do it, the more value you add. Controlling/harvesting emotions is a tough one. However, know that tolerating negative emotions, lead to misery. Besides most of your emotions are due to misunderstandings. If a story would be evaluated externally, by a qualified aid, you would find out that the story or stories that you are telling yourself are crippling you. Turn those around and always appreciate the positives that empower you. Love yourself. This one is multifaceted yet doable. Believe me. I did it and so did and do many other people around the world. Be your own best friend.
Know that it’s work. I have been in development since my childhood. I bet you will not need to work as hard as I did to find enlightenment if you chose to.
Do upon others as you would want done onto you. Spread love.
Today I felt sorry for all you sourpusses and haters. I know you exist because I have continued to run into you. Throughout my relationships, friendships, all my jobs, my childhood, and most of my interactions. Basically my entire life. I have been portrayed as many things. It’s mind boggling. I have been called sick, delusional, fake, crazy, imaginative, too convinced of myself, outlandish, overbearing, lazy, too expectant, and many more labels that I prefer not to think of. Additional passive aggressive behaviors are other attributes offered by sourpusses and haters.
Today I decided that I don’t care how those who assess me as such see it anymore. Sorry you live such a miserable life. Most important for me, however, is how I see it. Live and let live. I kind of suspect why you continue to argue to keep me around!? Please know that I greatly appreciate the constructive criticism in between all the intentional or unintentional abuses and insults. However, I honestly could care less how you think my present and/or future should be. I know who I am and how I want/need to roll. Thank you very much.
Again live and let live. If you decide to live an authentic life too, then you too are/will experience bliss on your level. I wish you all the best and much fun with all my heart.
The past few weeks have been even further more revealing and saddening. I have been toying with the idea on how to express these events in writing as another phase of my life that’s transpiring presently. Again because they are ironic, quite emotional, and carry lots of lessons to share. But words never properly would form in my head. So I decided to act and start writing them anyhow to let the stories tell themselves. If I am a writer, creative, a teacher, and an entertainer as I claim to be, words will paint the pictures to entertain and educate.
The events and outcomes that have transpired over the past few days are very much in alignment with my missions in life; Entertain and educate to spread love. These are gratitude opportunities that must be acknowledged. Also a validation of my respect for myself. Even if I get 0 audience, reading my previous posts make me fall more in love with myself. Which is another great tool that I swear by. Love and accept yourself. Be authentic. All of these are great concepts that can boost your confidence and increase your value to yourself and others.
Seems like all these events are happening ever since my looks and thinking patterns have changed. [to read how, read My Story] Which is OK by me. But truly sad and faltering. I, at times, despair because of too much ugliness. It’s hard to remain optimistic and pull yourself out of those modes at times. It feels fake to be positive when all is negative and there are no hopes/encouragements around you. You have to be grateful if you remain clear and survive. What has helped me, is educating myself. Training my brain. I personally am very grateful for living at this digital age. It gives me access to a lot of good resources that I can learn from. So always train your brain! Know that these experiences, however, uber emotionally charged and tense they are, they carry at least one lesson if not more. Look forward to discover the value(s) that you are going to gain because you survived another battle. It’s beautiful.
I am happy I am strong enough to sustain them by myself. And I do have to say that universe has gifted me with many blessings. One of them is a very strong woman in my neighborhood. She is 86, has experienced much in life, and is such a positive woman to look up to, in short. There are tons of interesting stories she has to tell. I do hope she gets to write her stories while it is possible. It’s a privilege to be able to talk to this power source and have her love and support. I greatly appreciate that. I water aerobic almost daily with her in the morning. The pool is right in front of the door. The house has been another blessing that I have had in life. If I didn’t have my domain to fall onto, I would have fallen in life and totally would have lost it big. But my house and my environment that I have worked for very hard to establish, strengthens and sustains me. Someday I will publish a post with pictures and stories of this magical place. It definitely carries Feng Shui powers. All of these blessings in life. However, know that it takes tons of hard work, strong faith [mine comes from spirituality, another chapter that I plan to share later], patient, persistent, optimism, the desire to want something from the bottom of my heart despite all that tried to divert me, and the imagination that I can do it. Even if not, isn’t more fun and exciting to pursue something or complete a project? Have fun! However, I am confident I will make it as I have always succeeded by very patiently and slowly adding the right tools and adapting the right attitude to propel.Where there is a will, there is a way. It excites me to think that there can be even brighter light at the end of the tunnel. What a great blessing that is. So many people around our globe will sadly never have that opportunity. Learn from failures, move on, and do it better the next time. I have been so often in situations that I consider major failures. But all of them equipped me with valuable lessons that made me know who I am, what I want or not, and how to proceed next.
I broke off with 2 of my oldest friends. We had known each other for18 years. Why? Because I assessed them as not being true friends anymore. They are also not people that I would like to hangout with. That simple. They knew that I have been wanting to be a writer and never offered any feedback on my projects. Additionally they continued declining collaboration on any projects or events that I suggested.
One of them claims that she is short on money. She loves making edible goodies with chocolates. I suggested that I can put together a website for her so that she can start selling her stuff. And since I am strong with decorative pieces that we eventually could sell together. She never reacted to that.
The last decline set me off. Enough was enough. She has been complaining on not having a man in her life to share things with. Since I am interested in networking to find investors for my project and/or seek to learn of new strategies on how to advance it, I asked her if she wanted to go to a local networking event together. It would have been a win-win situation for her and me. Lots of professional men were expected to be there. She simply declined and wished me vaguely good luck. I had asked her last month too. She excused herself by needing to go to gym. However, said that she always wanted to go for an happy hour to that hip bar in Phoenix. She said that if I would let her know next month for at least a week in advance, she would plan for it. Turned out that was an empty statement. Yes, I could have told myself something positive to continue our friendship. But what for?
The other friend went into freelance publishing business after her autoimmune disease diagnosis. Since my background was graphic design and I always have been entrepreneurial, I suggested that we setup a business together. She declined. Because she excuses herself with her Catholic belief. Our paths don’t mix she thinks. However, I truly have been professional thus far. No lie, I dislike organized religion. Love, faith, and spirituality, however, are awesome! How can one not appreciate those qualities in mankind or any institution? I respect that they have it and share it among their members. Wish I could be so blessed. However, it’s not in me to pretend I believe in certain things just to harvest the love and warmth of that community. Deceiving! Besides, it’s in me to always see the glass half full and appreciate the goodness in any situation. I believe that I always presented myself as such a person. If anyone has been offended, they misunderstood me. I always appreciate and love what’s good in you. The interaction that did it, where I thought enough is enough, is when she ignored my suggestion to go to a WordPress learning Meetup together to advance our skills. You see, after I had told her that I had started a blog, she wrote that she too was about to start a blog and will share details with me later. So I got excited for her. Thinking to myself, wow, what are the odds that one of my oldest friends is going to be engaged in the same activities as I am. Finally we will be able to collaborate on something together. I tried but never could do anything more!
All these years they both knew that I have been seeking closeness and friendship, but they never invited me into any of their circles such as July 4th camping, Thanksgiving dinners, card games, movie nights, family get-togethers and more. All I was good for is to be seen every 2 months for 2 hours for meals and superficial talks. I could no longer do that without them wanting to grow and develop with me. It was getting boring. I do have to say that both did offer some goodness. But I strongly believe that I always have lowered my expectations in life to see the glass half full. Any other friend at that time would have given me a birthday gift or attended my citizenship ceremony and things in that nature. I appreciated them. However, nothing extraordinary. No jumping through hoops to make my life better. As I had said in a previous post, have a friend for the sake of having a friend. Someone who matches your expectations.
Another interaction that was quite disappointing yet a valuable lesson was my interaction with this guy whom with I had a strong connection with. Long story short, my husband and I have decided that we are separating for reasons that I will not elaborate on at this time. That itself is a story to be told and I look forward to that article. I am grateful, however, that him and I have come to the conclusion to peacefully separate to hopefully begin our next exciting chapter in life. So naturally I am open to meet my one and only. So this guy attracted me cause he sounded nice and after looking at his LinkedIn profile, I wanted to get to know him more. Him and I talked during my customer service job. He, however, despite feeling the connection, looked at my blog site and specifically the characteristic page and decided that we are not a match. Respectable. I honor that. And am happy that I have established a tool that quickly tells prospects who I am. That way we are not wasting time to get to know each other during a lengthy process only to identify that we don’t like each other. Perfect tool for me. As it quickly eliminates unfitting people. However, what was disappointing is that this guy looks at all details on my site and only picks out what he doesn’t like about me to point out. That was a sad moment. And he also tried to infer fears in me and/or bully me before he ceases communication. Fear because he is a network security guy and thinks that revealing one’s personality publicly is dangerous. He also insinuated that my picture is sexually suggestive as I have my hands behind my head on my LinkedIn image. After a few hours of toying with the idea of taking my site down and hide, I chose to laugh. Because I have faith and believe that this is a positive outcome. Let unfitting people fall away fast. Besides I have nothing to hide. How can I become a famous writer/storyteller if I am afraid to publicize my life stories and hide who I am? No fears, as I too would like to be an entertainer and a teacher through my stories. Like so many other bloggers who have accomplished living a successful and an abundant life in the eyes of public, I too will dare. So why not me? There! Plus point is that this guy confirmed that I am sexy. Which woman doesn’t like to hear that? Especially someone like me who wants to succeed in the public eyes. That’s how you can always see the positive in everything.
Valuable lessons of these events and interactions are:
Get to know yourself as best as you can.
Honor your values. Refrain from compromising your values to please a community. If you are strong and you’re in the zone, your community too will benefit.
Love/respect yourself and ALL will love/respect YOU.
Know what you’re looking for. The more specific you are, the smaller the haystack gets. You will find your needle.
Drop fears and dare to plunge. What do you have to lose? It will be fun and you might succeed, trying. All my gains have come about when I dared in life. Do it. You can!
This morning I have been thinking of how most people annoy me with their small talks that include lots of negativity, empty talks of wishes that repeat year after year, ignorance, self importance with routines, and complaints of time passing by. It also seems like as we get older, we engage more into talking at surface level. Lots of routines with no deep meanings. It’s boring. Hell, I too have been guilty of all these behaviors.
Then I thought to myself that is plain rude of me to be that negative. Besides, everyone has the right to live the life as they are meant to live it. With all their opinions, flaws, and insecurities. I am the one who doesn’t fit in. My imagination is to talk to people that are impressive and add value, laugh with, share intellectual and spiritual moments with, and live in the moment to age gracefully. And if I collaborate, then we must together create some excitement. Be it tangible or not. Spending time in any other way is a wasted time to me. Quite arrogant!
However, that attitude tells me that I must stop worrying about what’s wrong with people, society, family, past, generation, genders, me, and etc. It’s depressing, stressful, pointless, and paralyzing. Of course we must agree that there is tons wrong. Now, however, I know why my visions have been delayed; Because of me. Myself inflicted miseries. Too busy to focus on what’s wrong with everything and me. Trying so badly to authenticated the discrepancies. That’s a prime example of seeing the glass half empty rather than half full. More importantly it’s contradictory with the philosophy of gratitude and rather disrespectful.
The lessons here are:
Accept yourself with all your expectations in life.
Let go of that what cannot be changed, peacefully.
Stay strong if faced with fears, doubts, or loneliness caused by others’ animosity, disapproval, resistance, discouragement, intimidation, love withdrawal, ignorance, spitefulness, pitifulness, or any other forms of imposed emotional abuses. They do not know better. Ignore and peacefully move on!
Gracefully remain steadfast and on the mission.
Continue to improve your game. This strategy is complex but the best.
Complete the necessary work.
Be open to miracles.
Always love yourself thru it all.
Be kind and forgive.
Count your blessings and appreciate your gifts.
Have fun! Enjoy the journey with all its ups and downs.
More force to those who lack a support system.
May we all make it to what we strive to be in life while we have the opportunity. Happy😊