Category Archives: Life Lessons

Shift of Powers

These past few years have been rough for all of us, to say the least. It’s getting even rougher as resistance to the inevitable upcoming changes will affect all of us and is exhausting at times. However, it is understandable as change was never taken well by general public. I have worked years in Human Resources and know that change is fought and resisted passionately in general. Sad actually, as there are very well reasons why there is a hierarchy [identified powers] in place in business as well as all our teams in life. If people would or could accept their role in that team environment and cooperate, then the system would function smoothly. Regretfully it isn’t that simple. Specially in today’s world. People have gotten false beliefs and continue to challenge that team dynamic in general. That itself is the most damaging flaw that we as a nation must overcome if we are to see any success in our existence as humanity.

To elaborate even more on how these flaws are infesting within our communities, groups, government, and anything else, just see the upsetting oppositions between groups that are causing division. I personally spent much time behind my laptop, researching and reading. In doing that, I have noticed the comments from resisting groups who are very angry about these changes. Yes, these changes are narrowing gaps for indecencies and inappropriate behaviors for perpetrators. But they have to understand that we live in a democracy and liberal world. Powers are set based on logic. Not based on falsely presented facts to benefit bullying groups. Animal behaviors exerted by those who have had powers is simply unjust and uncalled for in today’s world. We cannot consciously give ourselves the okay to judge and challenge anything that is against one’s values. The greater good is more important.

A black and white example is our gun laws. Yes, in America guns have been assessed as our rights. However, with all the violence we are experiencing today, it must be reformed to accommodate/overcome today’s challenge . Yet, there are so many groups that cannot agree on that and will passionately fight and argue and if needed maliciously use/abuse their powers to get their points across to ensure this amendment remains as it was assessed as our rights! Really?  These groups are insisting that we maintain this law as it is and advocates even more guns among us so that we can protect ourselves. The other day the News was showing teacher receiving military training and schools are to be armed now. Great! What is the mission? To get our people even more violent and agitated? Are we to be on guard now according to those people, believing that an armed world is a place to exist? So wrong. I would have to live in such a volatile world, always on guard. OMG! We have to kindly understand that we must reform our systems to make it work for us and not adopt more and more of combative behaviors.

Another huge one is the shift of powers between men and women. Our men despite  logically expressing their compassion, wanting to cooperate, to make the world a better place for all genders, are acting upset in all walks of life. This too goes back to humanity automatically resisting/opposing change. Just look at our history! Great innovations were battled and denied and people who introduced them were initially prosecuted just to stand our ground in our wrong belief systems.

Sure, men have gotten away all these years with being adored and being given powers to run like a bull into the china shop, not really thinking that these damaging behaviors have a ripple effect throughout their immediate communities and society in large. Despite the light that has been shined on these ugly  behaviors through recent uproars, we are, however, collectively at fault. Because we allowed these behaviors for years to manifest and now it is a second nature to them. Logic wants them to cooperate, but learned belief systems will motivate them to fight changes with all their powers. As a Life Coach, I know reform/change of deeply embedded conditioning is a lot of work. Yet only hard work can and will lead to success.

Embracing change, that includes the shift of powers, is the only way to ensure our continuance. My biggest wish/dream is that we all one day soon are able to grow/evolve on that fact. I did and can testify that it is liberating to embrace change. The wisdom of Taoism, a Chinese religion, tells us that we must learn to be flexible in life in order to flow with the needs of our times. Remember change is inevitable!

Love and Blessings ❤️

Enlightening Life Lessons

Entlightening LessonIt’s been a hard ride for me thus far. However, I am so grateful for having finally discovered the balance to my sanity and happiness. So it is from personal experiences that I am writing these lessons that have helped me. Learn and apply them as soon as possible if you want to find some contentment before it is too late. Life is too beautiful and precious to be wasted. Here they are:

Control – Never try to control the outcome of any situation if it’s not meant to be. Accept, harvest the positives, and move on. Sometimes situations turn out the way you want them to and sometimes they don’t. Everyone knows what I am talking about. Excessive emotions condition us. Do yourself a favor and never put too much expectations into any outcome. Unmeant expectations result in emotions that permanently condition us and keep us from future surprising outcomes. This lesson is very well taught and practiced in sales/business. Go into any situation with good intentions and don’t be mad if it doesn’t pan out they way you had hoped for.

Anger – Drop anger. Accept that life is unfair. Just be good to yourself. If you are too busy coming up with excuses as to why things are less than favorable to your taste, then you are a problem. You are not adding goodness to this world. You are just moaning and whining. If you want a good life, apply yourself and leave anybody and anything or any situation better than before. That’s what the world needs. Not whiners and those who are hurt forever and give themselves permission to feel hurt and hurt others. Experience joy by being a pleasure. It is truly all about love. Love and forgive instead.

Judgment – This one doesn’t serve you what so ever. It’s not your job to imply your way of thinking and doing unto others. Nor could you assume that anyone has the same thinking pattern as you would act or react. Just observe and simply see if there is any mutual ground. And if not, it’s OK. Cool to know one’s preference.

These principles that I continue to teach myself have improved my life a lot. I hope you too find balance and contentment. Practice does make the master. Never give up trying.

Love and Blessings ❤️



Gratitude Opportunities

The past few weeks have been even further more revealing and saddening. I have been toying with the idea on how to express these events in writing as another phase of my life that’s transpiring presently. Again because they are ironic, quite emotional, and carry lots of lessons to share. But words never properly would form in my head. So I decided to act and start writing them anyhow to let the stories tell themselves. If I am a writer, creative, a teacher, and an entertainer as I claim to be, words will paint the pictures to entertain and educate.


The events and outcomes that have transpired over the past few days are very much in alignment with my missions in life; Entertain and educate to spread love. These are gratitude opportunities that must be acknowledged. Also a validation of my respect for myself. Even if I get 0 audience, reading my previous posts make me fall more in love with myself. Which is another great tool that I swear by. Love and accept yourself. Be authentic. All of these are great concepts that can boost your confidence and increase your value to yourself and others.

Seems like all these events are happening ever since my looks and thinking patterns have changed. [to read how, read My Story] Which is OK by me. But truly sad and faltering. I, at times, despair because of too much ugliness.  It’s hard to remain optimistic and pull yourself out of those modes at times. It feels fake to be positive when all is negative and there are no hopes/encouragements around you. You have to be grateful if you remain clear and survive. What has helped me, is educating myself. Training my brain. I personally am very grateful for living at this digital age. It gives me access to a lot of good resources that I can learn from. So always train your brain! Know that these experiences, however, uber emotionally charged and tense they are, they carry at least one lesson if not more. Look forward to discover the value(s) that you are going to gain because you survived another battle. It’s beautiful.

I am happy I am strong enough to sustain them by myself. And I do have to say that universe has gifted me with many blessings. One of them is a very strong woman in my neighborhood. She is 86, has experienced much in life, and is such a positive woman to look up to, in short. There are tons of interesting stories she has to tell. I do hope she gets to write her stories while it is possible. It’s a privilege to be able to talk to this power source and have her love and support. I greatly appreciate that. I water aerobic almost daily with her in the morning. The pool is right in front of the door. The house has been another blessing that I have had in life. If I didn’t have my domain to fall onto, I would have fallen in life and totally would have lost it big. But my house and my environment that I have worked for very hard to establish, strengthens and sustains me. Someday I will publish a post with pictures and stories of this magical place. It definitely carries Feng Shui powers. All of these blessings in life. However, know that it takes tons of hard work, strong faith [mine comes from spirituality, another chapter that I plan to share later], patient, persistent, optimism, the desire to want something from the bottom of my heart despite all that tried to divert me, and the imagination that I can do it.  Even if not, isn’t more fun and exciting to pursue something or complete a project? Have fun! However, I am confident I will make it as I have always succeeded by very patiently and slowly adding the right tools and adapting the right attitude to propel.Where there is a will, there is a way. It excites me to think that there can be even brighter light at the end of the tunnel. What a great blessing that is. So many people around our globe will sadly never have that opportunity. Learn from failures, move on, and do it better the next time. I have been so often in situations that I consider major failures. But all of them equipped me with valuable lessons that made me know who I am, what I want or not, and how to proceed next.

I broke off with 2 of my oldest friends. We had known each other for18 years. Why? Because I assessed them as not being true friends anymore. They are also not people that I would like to hangout with. That simple. They knew that I have been wanting to be a writer and never offered any feedback on my projects. Additionally they continued declining collaboration on any projects or events that I suggested.

One of them claims that she is short on money. She loves making edible goodies with chocolates. I suggested that I can put together a website for her so that she can start selling her stuff. And since I am strong with decorative pieces that we eventually could sell together. She never reacted to that.

The last decline set me off. Enough was enough. She has been complaining on not having a man in her life to share things with. Since I am interested in networking to find investors for my project and/or seek to learn of new strategies on how to advance it, I asked her if she wanted to go to a local networking event together. It would have been a win-win situation for her and me. Lots of professional men were expected to be there. She simply declined and wished me vaguely good luck. I had asked her last month too. She excused herself by needing to go to gym. However, said that she always wanted to go for an happy hour to that hip bar in Phoenix. She said that if I would let her know next month for at least a week in advance, she would plan for it. Turned out that was an empty statement. Yes, I could have told myself something positive to continue our friendship. But what for?

The other friend went into freelance publishing business after her autoimmune disease diagnosis. Since my background was graphic design and I always have been entrepreneurial, I suggested that we setup a business together. She declined. Because she excuses herself with her Catholic belief. Our paths don’t mix she thinks. However, I truly have been professional thus far. No lie, I dislike organized religion. Love, faith, and spirituality, however, are awesome! How can one not appreciate those qualities in mankind or any institution? I respect that they have it and share it among their members. Wish I could be so blessed. However, it’s not in me to pretend I believe in certain things just to harvest the love and warmth of that community. Deceiving! Besides, it’s in me to always see the glass half full and appreciate the goodness in any situation. I believe that I always presented myself as such a person. If anyone has been offended, they misunderstood me. I always appreciate and love what’s good in you. The interaction that did it, where I thought enough is enough, is when she ignored my suggestion to go to a WordPress learning Meetup together to advance our skills. You see, after I had told her that I had started a blog, she wrote that she too was about to start a blog and will share details with me later. So I got excited for her. Thinking to myself, wow, what are the odds that one of my oldest friends is going to be engaged in the same activities as I am. Finally we will be able to collaborate on something together. I tried but never could do anything more!

All these years they both knew that I have been seeking closeness and friendship, but they never invited me into any of their circles such as July 4th camping, Thanksgiving dinners, card games, movie nights, family get-togethers and more. All I was good for is to be seen every 2 months for 2 hours for meals and superficial talks. I could no longer do that without them wanting to grow and develop with me. It was getting boring. I do have to say that both did offer some goodness. But I strongly believe that I always have lowered my expectations in life to see the glass half full. Any other friend at that time would have given me a birthday gift or attended my citizenship ceremony and things in that nature. I appreciated them. However, nothing extraordinary. No jumping through hoops to make my life better. As I had said in a previous post, have a friend for the sake of having a friend. Someone who matches your expectations.

Another interaction that was quite disappointing yet a valuable lesson was my interaction with this guy whom with I had a strong connection with. Long story short, my husband and I have decided that we are separating for reasons that I will not elaborate on at this time. That itself is a story to be told and I look forward to that article. I am grateful, however, that him and I have come to the conclusion to peacefully separate to hopefully begin our next exciting chapter in life. So naturally I am open to meet my one and only. So this guy attracted me cause he sounded nice and after looking at his LinkedIn profile, I wanted to get to know him more. Him and I talked during my customer service job. He, however, despite feeling the connection, looked at my blog site and specifically the characteristic page and decided that we are not a match. Respectable. I honor that. And am happy that I have established a tool that quickly tells prospects who I am. That way we are not wasting time to get to know each other during a lengthy process only to identify that we don’t like each other. Perfect tool for me. As it quickly eliminates unfitting people. However, what was disappointing is that this guy looks at all details on my site and only picks out what he doesn’t like about me to point out. That was a sad moment. And he also tried to infer fears in me and/or bully me before he ceases communication. Fear because he is a network security guy and thinks that revealing one’s personality publicly is dangerous. He also insinuated that my picture is sexually suggestive as I have my hands behind my head on my LinkedIn image. After a few hours of toying with the idea of taking my site down and hide, I chose to laugh.  Because I have faith and believe that this is a positive outcome. Let unfitting people fall away fast. Besides I have nothing to hide. How can I become a famous writer/storyteller if I am afraid to publicize my life stories and hide who I am? No fears, as I too would like to be an entertainer and a teacher through my stories. Like so many other bloggers who have accomplished living a successful and an abundant life in the eyes of public, I too will dare. So why not me?  There! Plus point is that this guy confirmed that I am sexy. Which woman doesn’t like to hear that? Especially someone like me who wants to succeed in the public eyes. That’s how you can always see the positive in everything.

Valuable lessons of these events and interactions are: 

  • Get to know yourself as best as you can.
  • Honor your values. Refrain from compromising your values to please a community. If you are strong and you’re in the zone, your community too will benefit.
  • Love/respect yourself and ALL will love/respect YOU.
  • Know what you’re looking for. The more specific you are, the smaller the haystack  gets. You will find your needle.
  • Drop fears and dare to plunge. What do you have to lose? It will be fun and you might succeed, trying. All my gains have come about when I dared in life. Do it. You can!

Peace and Blessings❤️




One Plan vs. Multiples

Quite often have I heard that focusing and working toward one life plan is the best strategy. Not necessarily. What has worked for me is having had multiple life options.  This strategy has strengthened me and has always elevated my life. If plan A doesn’t pan out, then there is a plan B, C, D, E, and so forth. You get the picture.

Let your Faith be bigger than your Fears

More than anything, have faith!

If circumstances don’t happen according to your liking or plan(s) in life, they were not meant to be. This could be a job, a friendship, a marriage, a business, or so many other circumstances. It’s OK. You tried it and had hopefully fun and now you know it was not meant to be. Move on. There are many skills and analogies you learned . Those are your valuables to take forever from any life circumstance. Be thankful. Always dare to do what it takes to try your options and again if things don’t workout and you perceive any project as a failure, learn your lessons, count your blessings, peacefully move on, and do it better the next time!? That philosophy has always propelled me in life.

Note to self: practice makes the master. If we only continue practicing, one day we will master it.  It’d be exciting to learn how to always live in the moment, appreciate life, enjoy the journey, and be happy.

Peace and Blessings❤️