Achieve Magical Transformation

It was on a recent mental comparison that I came to realize that all in my life had magically transformed within these past few years.  It all set into motion due to my mental shifts that were forced due to a few dramatic events of my life. Amazing! Not only did I lean up and became in all shapes [physically, mentally, emotionally] stronger, but the house, our dog, my mission and ambitions, and more importantly, I now feel liberated because my path and purpose in life are FINALLY crystal clear. I thought such a moment would never occur in my life and it did! Looking back to evaluate what specific details changed it all,  it was me waking up to the truth. Is that what caused all of these uproars and changes in my life? Yes. Changes that I always dreamed or imagined but never thought would be feasible for someone like me. But law of attraction proofed to me that dreaming, hoping, imagining can indeed make things happen. The transition, regretfully, has been frightening to my loved ones. I was always intimidating to them and now I am super frightening and unstoppable on path. Can you blame me? I think it’s awesome and would like to hold the doors open for them to pass as well. Yet the fight to embrace the new me and life has been quite difficult. To a degree that we are now collectively financially bleeding and I know that if lessons are not learned and things not changed, refusal will lead even to more agony for them. But I have mercy as these are signs of our mental disorders that can lead to self-sabotage to a degree of destruction. I have been there many times and done that. But that too I know is a hurtful lesson that must transpire to awaken involved parties, hopefully!? It’s hurtful to witness but I have been prepared to sustain. I truly am used to fighting. However, never in a million years would I have imagined my immediate surrounding’s inability to wrap its head around these massive awesome shifts in existence. To say the least, this fight has been a fairly emotional fight. Deep down I know it will be my last battle in life before the storms settle and are controlled. I have come along way and I will conquer the last piece with as little bruises as possible. That’s how my mind is now setup. Too am I in life more confident cause I now know there is an Universe who has my back and is putting wind under my sails. Developing believe and faith is the most important element along your journey. If you care to ever conquer anything and reach any goals that you have set for yourself, the best thing you could ever do for yourself is to develop your imagination which is the same as “faith, believe, trust”. Subconsciously I have been partially doing that because of my religious grandma who continued to preach to me the importance of imagination and my own esoteric upbringing. I always was drawn to the mystic and powers of Universe. Now I know that too was part of the puzzle as Gods want us to embrace all our blessings! Purposefully I was a skeptic yet spiritual who was scientifically converted into a believer at the right time in life so that I can pass on to you that we are all Gods/Goddesses who can tap into our blessings to live the life’s we always have dreamed to live. It’s possible! Such an exciting discovery. I have no other choice than to share this discovery with anyone who cares to hear even if that means risking upsetting some disbelievers for not toning my messages down.

To reiterate how to awaken magic in your life’s, develop your imagination. Take serious the power of your internal dialogs that continue to affect your system. Wipe all limiting self talks and believes to rewire your subconscious. It’s your control system that rides you one way or another. To steer yourself correctly, replace your thoughts/internal dialogue with imaginative and positive dialog and watch magic unfold. It’s truly the law of attraction which is another blessing in our toolbox! Utilize all effectively.

Love and Blessings ❤️
Salome

Best Things in Life are Worth Waiting and Working For

There are so many sayings/wisdom that confirm that logic in life. Amazing that a person as wealthy and popular as Prince would too know of this profound wisdom. Respect!

I truly can testify to it as well. People ask me why it took me such a long time to loose weight or to find myself and my calling/purpose. I truly am glad it did take its sweet time as the experiences and the journey that has made me into who I am today are PRICELESS treasures that I cherish. I now know that all transpires as it should and we need to learn to go with the ebbs and flows of life to properly manage. I highly advocate developing patience and integrity in your lifetime to refrain from seeking instant gratification as they are misleading. These virtues truly protected me in life from falling into dangers and wrong paths. So I thank my Universe, Divine Powers, Lord, Gods, Gaia, Allah, HaShem, Buddha or however you refer to our Higher Source. It truly does not matter. What matters is our ability to co-exist and embrace diversity in life. Our worlds and landscapes have drastically changed. If we fail to catch up/step up, we will fail to succeed due to natural law which is the “fittest shall survive”. It is a law of nature. Like it or not. Learn to change and stretch yourself to step up [higher your game] as that is your only choice to bliss or you will fall pray into many forms of mental health disorders that are ridding/destroying us.

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I hope you do find valuable information in my stories and wisdom that I share with love. If you cannot, I truly feel sorry as believe you suffer from insecurities that motivate you to repel what you judge/assess.  My messages are getting more direct cause I continue running into oppositions in life. I do apologize for offending anyone. Just offering my “2 cents”.

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Love and Blessings ❤️
Salome

Gods are Reborn

What a blessing! To know that Universe has your back and that sticking to moral values in life does pay back. YOU get to be a part of this age. I am thrilled that I am. In my heart I always felt blessed for living in this age with so much resources.

It is ironic that an ex-atheist like me now believes in the stories that so many people believed in and still do (or falsely believe they do). Yet the Divine downloads that I have been receiving lately, tell me that these great men did indeed walk the earth and preached. We, however, changed the stories around to work them for our own hidden agendas and those in power abused it! And many other greats [I call them earth angels] who walked the earth, we prosecuted/punished/derailed them. Broke their hearts and abused them. Gods are mad!

I now know why we suffer! Because all the powers lay indeed within. We can do good or bad. We managed to balance between good and bad. But the bad is now on tipping point. If you want to experience heaven, know that it needs to be created on Earth to be passed on to following generations with kindness. Learn how to. It made an example out of me and so many others to proof to us, who care to learn from examples, that we have all we need to succeed as so many, including me, could and did. It’s not freaking easy, yet it is doable and the reality. It’s up to us to make it or fuck it up!

Divine Powers tell me that the blessing first were presented in form of religions to guide us and later in many other blessings. But we continued to ignore and believe arrogantly that these great science/advancement innovations and other blessings were/are man made. The truth is far from that. All our blessings, including science and anything in between, are Divine blessings. Not our own doings! We are just chose vehicles in various roles, executing. Ideas, innovations, creativity, science, art, advancements, discoveries, all of it. Every single detail is planned. I learned that fact based on my close observation of all realms. To feel the proof of Divine Powers, just learn to see the signs of its existence in yourself, your surroundings, our planet, other, blah blah blah and live in love.

Fact is that most men too abused their given powers, regretfully due to their biology that is  animalistic and tougher to control, so work will need to now continue by women as they are better equipped to lead. Just as we grow, so does GAIA. It’s LOGIC! So powers are shifting.

Our jobs are to appreciate our blessing as they are given to us, refrain from corruption and deceit at all cost, and do good with our powers and resources to flourish ourselves and our immediate communities. Specially as a man you must learn to control your ego and focus on kindly to be the provider/protector of your community as you were equipped to be. Only a peaceful collaboration among the genders or any other differences will ensure success. Any hateful intentions, sayings, doings, and such are indeed karma that will rotten one’s blessings. Those who fall into the wrong belief system to decline Divine Powers existence, are sinning and will pay their dues in life. In today’s world they are called mental disorders that lower the quality of life’s. Well documented on the rise as sinning is high. Those who have the ability to abuse their powers, may try to entertain and kill time for themselves. However, their inner truth and mind will never leave them experiencing bliss in life. Thereof sufferings are unavoidable! All sufferings are messages to wake us up. As we continue to miss them, the sufferings get tougher.

Since United States has shown signs of having abused it’s given leadership powers, Gods have been angry and continue to punish its wrongdoings strongly with various hardships. Largely it’s because its people have lost faith and engage in narcissistic, corrupted behaviors. Specially this countries leaders.They have become gullible and ignorant. It was Divine Powers that caused the Roman Empire to fall apart. To prevent history from repeating itself, United States will need to rise once again to lead the world into prosperity and peace. I personally have no longer any worries as I see clearly the signs of the upcoming changes all over this country’s landscape. That too has been planned by the Divine Powers. There will not be another fall like Roman Empire as United States has been chosen to lead the way once again. Changes have been initiated and are just a matter of time.

May you too believe soon again as it is beautiful and comforting.

Love and Blessings ❤️
Salome

Shift of Powers

These past few years have been rough for all of us, to say the least. It’s getting even rougher as resistance to the inevitable upcoming changes will affect all of us and is exhausting at times. However, it is understandable as change was never taken well by general public. I have worked years in Human Resources and know that change is fought and resisted passionately in general. Sad actually, as there are very well reasons why there is a hierarchy [identified powers] in place in business as well as all our teams in life. If people would or could accept their role in that team environment and cooperate, then the system would function smoothly. Regretfully it isn’t that simple. Specially in today’s world. People have gotten false beliefs and continue to challenge that team dynamic in general. That itself is the most damaging flaw that we as a nation must overcome if we are to see any success in our existence as humanity.

To elaborate even more on how these flaws are infesting within our communities, groups, government, and anything else, just see the upsetting oppositions between groups that are causing division. I personally spent much time behind my laptop, researching and reading. In doing that, I have noticed the comments from resisting groups who are very angry about these changes. Yes, these changes are narrowing gaps for indecencies and inappropriate behaviors for perpetrators. But they have to understand that we live in a democracy and liberal world. Powers are set based on logic. Not based on falsely presented facts to benefit bullying groups. Animal behaviors exerted by those who have had powers is simply unjust and uncalled for in today’s world. We cannot consciously give ourselves the okay to judge and challenge anything that is against one’s values. The greater good is more important.

A black and white example is our gun laws. Yes, in America guns have been assessed as our rights. However, with all the violence we are experiencing today, it must be reformed to accommodate/overcome today’s challenge . Yet, there are so many groups that cannot agree on that and will passionately fight and argue and if needed maliciously use/abuse their powers to get their points across to ensure this amendment remains as it was assessed as our rights! Really?  These groups are insisting that we maintain this law as it is and advocates even more guns among us so that we can protect ourselves. The other day the News was showing teacher receiving military training and schools are to be armed now. Great! What is the mission? To get our people even more violent and agitated? Are we to be on guard now according to those people, believing that an armed world is a place to exist? So wrong. I would have to live in such a volatile world, always on guard. OMG! We have to kindly understand that we must reform our systems to make it work for us and not adopt more and more of combative behaviors.

Another huge one is the shift of powers between men and women. Our men despite  logically expressing their compassion, wanting to cooperate, to make the world a better place for all genders, are acting upset in all walks of life. This too goes back to humanity automatically resisting/opposing change. Just look at our history! Great innovations were battled and denied and people who introduced them were initially prosecuted just to stand our ground in our wrong belief systems.

Sure, men have gotten away all these years with being adored and being given powers to run like a bull into the china shop, not really thinking that these damaging behaviors have a ripple effect throughout their immediate communities and society in large. Despite the light that has been shined on these ugly  behaviors through recent uproars, we are, however, collectively at fault. Because we allowed these behaviors for years to manifest and now it is a second nature to them. Logic wants them to cooperate, but learned belief systems will motivate them to fight changes with all their powers. As a Life Coach, I know reform/change of deeply embedded conditioning is a lot of work. Yet only hard work can and will lead to success.

Embracing change, that includes the shift of powers, is the only way to ensure our continuance. My biggest wish/dream is that we all one day soon are able to grow/evolve on that fact. I did and can testify that it is liberating to embrace change. The wisdom of Taoism, a Chinese religion, tells us that we must learn to be flexible in life in order to flow with the needs of our times. Remember change is inevitable!

Love and Blessings ❤️
Salome

Age of Spirituality

The 90th Oscars last night confirmed we are indeed in the age of spirituality, if we like it or not. I believe!

Finally, times resonate. As per Wheel of Fortune in Tarot cards, seasons do change, light does follow darkness. I personally have been the minority and an odd ball in this world [assessed as lesbian, crazy, angry, agitated and everything else in between]. It is a blessing that what we women have fought for all our life is showing signs of fruition. There are so many greats that have indeed paved the ways for us. It’s our time to do good!

Embracing differences + Opening up dialogue are the first needed steps on our lengthy journey ahead.

But to again glorify how Oscars send many social messages, it was too good to hear that set norms [status quo or standards] are no longer necessarily a fit in today’s world. I knew it! People finally dare to stand up to injustice to say enough is enough as I have been all my life. Colored people, women, and other definition of minorities get pushed around and bullied to be forced into things [to sum all ugliness] or a lifestyle one doesn’t want. Terrible! I was blessed to remain protected from all the crap that has gone around.

Many as I must be happy times are changing. Some might not as change poops on some people’s parade. Yet it is promise that only change promises our continuity. All resistance will lead to your own destruction. I have been on that route in my life and speak of years of sufferings. Yes, lots of work ahead of us. But the healing and unity will be so worth it. To start the collective healing to achieve unity, we must learn to embrace all our differences and be okay with addressing what must be addressed! Failure to plan is planing to fail. Obviously.

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Salome

Episode I – What Makes People Ugly | Costco

Salome’s Educational Pieces

In this episode I highlight my ugly interactions with the public in NE Mesa, Arizona, Costco shop, in an informal and witty way to educate my community about things that we must be descend about in the society. Bullying women and specially minority around due to misunderstandings and narcissism is damaging.

We women carry the responsibility to start this much needed movement to heal our communities. My mission is to educate as many people as possible in my immediate community to achieve collective healing and reunite again.

[My sincere apologies to whom ever feels offended. I am the one who feels harassed and discriminated : ( ]

Please know that I am speaking in love and not hate!

If you are a woman, specially a minority who feels harassed like a cattle in this world of corruption, wear a band on your index finger to say “NO” to being bullied in life.

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Salome

Ideas Worth Igniting

Since I have had such a twisted life journey with many ups and downs and stories to teach others the shortcuts I learned/gathered on hard ways to prevent years of failures for others and more importantly expedite their bliss, I have so many times been advised to write a book. Experts and all our wanna be teachers/mentors/coaches have told me that if I don’t at least have a chapter [tangible], then I will not ever be able to establish myself as an artist, writer, a producer, entertainer, and more importantly a teacher. If I would rely on our leaders who teach us the standards to follow in order to ever succeed, I would have faltered many years ago and given up even attempting anything in life with my lame ass start points. So the warrior that I am, I always went against the grains [preached standards] to achieve anything in life. Following set standards in my opinion lack innovations and they are unfitting/unspoken rules and regulations just brain washing us. Pure corrupt as they are misleading. We don’t even notice when we prosecute someone mentally [passive aggressively] when they don’t meet the standards. This includes ourselves even. Set standards don’t even work and confuse the shit out of most of us. I continued to tell myself that “not me”. I never wanted to play that stupid game. So naturally I was always enticed by the creativity and unity United States provided as they seemed at least somewhat more advanced and civilized compared to the rest. What an opportunity! Americans at least offered some artistic creativity and humanity that I allowed me to believe that dreams are possible as I could with all my heart resonate with at least with that logic and learn from. I have lived with my husband in Arizona for 25+ years. During these time we have learned so much!! Looking back it’s been adventure to share. These are blessings one should be grateful for. Now I am ready to pass it on to others who care to follow.

Back to elaborating on the book and chapter idea. Yes, I do have tons of stories that would make many great books. However, the more I think about the idea of lengthy books, the more I know that they are not the most effective methods of teaching in today’s world. The information overload indeed has shorten our thinking span. We are trained to entertain ourselves and books too feed into that culture. A culture of mindlessly entertaining people to just make dollars! Having said that since our standards are not very innovative and are obviously challenging our existence, it’s clear that we must simplify. Just look at the staggering social issues we collectively are experiencing now a days. It doesn’t have to transpire that way! Since I loved and still love shortcuts, I embarked on learning them and United States offered a superior background. Thanks to my lazy Persian attitude too that supported my love for finding shortcuts, another proof that we must learn to harvest [embrace] all our little perceived flaws [are they really!?], I learned that we can succeed with the right strategies. Honestly, I now know! In my opinion blogs and entertainment as well as revamping of our standards to match today’s needs are the most important things representing our future that we must start with. If I ever had the character or would have forced myself to adopt/follow standards, it would have been easier for someone like me to have established myself. But the truth is that I always had a greater interest in mind. Thereof I have fought all my life to remain independent from corrupted standards that condition us to be and act shady in life. I despise that and know that there are so many of us who do that as well. Yet our belief system keeps our good hearts back from attempting to break the rules. Thereof we self-sabotage ourselves and cause damage to the greater good. Let’s steer the ship into the right path to fulfill our dreams!

Here are some ideas on how to:

 

  • Production of an inspirational documentary movie to re-awaken faith and spirituality in mankind. We need to believe again to achieve unity.

 

  • Revamp educational material to reprogram next generations correctly to prevent future messes.

 

  • Work on educating our communities to heal.

These are easier said then done. Yet I know through years of hard experiences and wisdom now that they are possible if we collectively innovate the wheels again. Let us learn from the Chinese people and so many admirable humans who have paved the way and shown us again and again, now and in the history, that with the right attitude and all our resources, we can do it.

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Love and Blessings ❤️

Salome

Standard vs. Uniqueness

 

From experience I can testify that repelling uniqueness or differences is part of the Western culture and in general part of humanity. I was a foreigner in Germany for 10 years and now have lived in United States for 25+ years as a Persian. In Germany I would be assumed to be a Turk as Turkish people were allowed to migrate to that country as laborers after WWII to help rebuild the country and in the States, specially in Southwest, people assume I am Mexican or a Native Indian. Due to having experienced the [ugly] treatments most Westerner extend to these groups, I know that repelling anything that differs from expected standards is the norm within these societies. Simultaneously, I have been exposed to my own culture discriminatory behaviors as well. So naturally I have seen how we tend to repel anything that differs from our programmed belief system. However, it has been utmost harsh! As a privileged Persian who would have been brought up within my groups, I would have never experienced these kind of unjust behaviors existing within our societies/cultures. So I would have used/misused my powers to bully the lesser privileged groups.

We can beat our programmed belief systems. I lucked out by isolating and experiencing life differently so I can report to you that if we fail to control the natural course of our thinking pattern that is motivated by a false belief system [programmed], we will fail to ever see unity! Why? Isn’t that pretty obvious!? Our environments have changed drastically ever since the internet. We now are aware of much more than our brains are capable of handling. Globalization has caused many clashes among the various groups that we previously were unaware of. Because of our inability to process all that information, being mislead and slipping into the wrong path due to our faulty believe systems is easily doable by those who can play us. That is disastrous! Clashes of opinions are not be feared as only exchanging in a healthy manner will propel us as humanity ahead.

There are so many examples to cite to point out a few related issues presently playing mind games with all of us. An example, Opiate Addiction Epidemic is on the rise because the differences that are challenging our learned/programmed standards ARE above average. These discrepancies are leading to massive stress and depressions. Regretfully a society that is money motivated and has learned to remain focused on money, can easily be corrupted by its leaders that we rely on. So we go to our doctors who we believe are the experts [leaders] we can trust. Yet our doctors are motivated to make a living. Pharmaceutical companies send out account managers who are charming and enticing. They tell our doctors that the more they prescribe of their medications [recorded & reported by pharmacies], the more prestige and money they will receive. At times we run into good people who will never partake in such a corrupt system, yet can one trust blindly? He or she might be just selling you in such a cunning manner that you will never know. Or they too might have been convinced that their learned conventional education is the only way to address issues!? I have been there. In 2015, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. The neurologist who I was told to see, scared me to death by insisting that I must start pharmaceutical treatments as soon as possible to prevent future relapses. He cheerfully expressed that he had my best interest in mind with his serious recommendations. Since I had worked for a pharmaceutical corporation and knew how the system works, despite initially loosing it, I went into research. Not even one week passed by till I was being bombarded with calls from a prominent pharmaceutical company specializing in MS patients. I talked to a very kind concierge nurse exclusive assigned to me to support me. I felt special and a sense of calmness, believing that she truly cared for me. But in my research I found out why she was motivated to do this. Not to say that she personally lacked compassion, the truth, however, remains that she was an employee of a pharmaceutical company who has been advised to execute her job professionally. Not to dismiss that people lack sincerity but maybe it was just a presented show to comply with her duties!? Come to find out, I would have been a 100k client annually to them. Of course they will assign a concierge nurse [customer service representative] who probably handles so many more 100k patients for her company.

The worse thing is that if I had opted to listen to my doc blindly, I would have been hooked on depression medications and who knows what else to manage the side affects of the MS drug. An official patient in the system to generate money. In general, any medical problem should not immediately be combated with medication, including depression However, standards compel us to rely on this false belief system that has been ingrained [programmed] into us.

To make a long story short, I even went back a year later, thinking that my good health and weight-loss achieved would convince my doc to adopt kinder and gentler ways of treatments that he could advocate to his other MS patients. He actually arrogantly repelled and dismissed me as I did not provide the relationship that he had accepted mentally. Either his doings were due to true arrogance, cause how dare me to challenge his gained years of expertise, or he was truly corrupted and only interested in working with people that supply to his motives without questioning his authority. Regardless of his reasons, I could care less as I am grateful I relied on my own wisdom handling the situation that had such a profound effect on my well-being. The point is always take into consideration your own well-being and do not allow anyone to mislead you, either knowingly nor unknowingly.

We must acknowledge that our inability to consolidate our differences to co-exist in this global world,  causes damages to ourselves and the society in large. Because we unknowingly [automatically] engage in combating/conflicting behaviors just to justify our world to our set standards. If you pay attention, you will notice that battling differences in this world is lately the standards that’s why shit is hitting the fan.  It happens between genders, left and rights, ethnics, religious groups, country, and on and one and on. Gosh people defend their opinions, belief systems, teams, groups, and everything will all their powers with zero regards to a greater good. These behaviors are automated in compliance with our natural tendencies to behave like animals rather than cultured and controlled. That’s why we as humans have been chosen to be the top of the animal kingdom. Engaging in any uncontrolled behaviors will destroy our resources including us self. In order to store harmony and recreate unity in all realms of life, small and large, we must learn to embrace differences. How to do that when there is so much complexity confusing messages, injustice, and the never ending problems among all the different groups and in the world? It can be difficult at times to navigate through all that is transpiring around us and it’s easy to crawl back into our known belief systems [standards] to hide and numb ourselves. But don’t give up as there is a methodical way out. Yes, it is lots of work. But so worth the peace the harmony of your mind lends. How have I reached such a state of mind? Despite wanting to give up trying, I continued to remain objective in life, always sought the truth despite its ugliness at times, stayed focused on what has been enhancing my life, and acted out of kindness with the knowledge I was exposed to and the powers I was given. Many times my persona has been misjudged due to handling things myself as well as issues differently, against the set standards. However, I have continued to successfully exist in such a manner and can confidently tell you that it is the only way of moving forward in this environment. May the fittest survive is one of our universal laws that we must abide by to prevail. Norms and standards as expected are being challenged in today’s world. Only learning to embrace our differences and remain aware of the truth to control issues is our solution to heal as a global society. Together we can heal and better manage our resources to unit. It starts within and must entail adopting co-existence strategies. Learning to embrace our differences [be it internal or external] is the only way to overcome chaos/disaster to restore peace, harmony and unity. Do it!

Love and Blessings ❤️

Salome

Find Your Valentine

Valentine’s Day is here once again, a time to reflect on our love experience(s) in life! One either feels grateful, doubtful or lonely depending on how we evaluate. Since our mind paints the picture and is in charge of how we feel, it is only appropriate to write of my experiences on this topic to point out how our perceptions can make everything feel rosy or clouded. A great opportunity to evaluate our perception and develop awareness of what love truly is and not what we have come to believe it should look like before we can feel good.

I was under a cloud for years despite trying to keep my love alive as there was always a nagging voice that kept me feeling unfulfilled. Do yourself a favor and avoid feeling lost and confused for years to avoid feeling like a lonely goose this Valentine’s Day, if possible. Yes, it is easier said than done, but I know now that I know that it is easy if you only shift your thinking. I wished a sensible person in my life had pointed out that simple truth to me many years ago so that I could have avoided all those years of agony, confusions, feeling lonely, and stressed. Actually worst… depressed! But rather than getting clear messages to understand what true love is, I was being mislead by external and internal voices as most of us are. The root problem is complex and negative as how we all are in some sort of matrix [believe system] and continue unknowingly to keep ourselves and each other there. Life is ironic yet it has helped me to isolate myself that has given me the opportunity to think outside of the box to organize and correctly evaluate thoughts/feelings so that I can teach myself and pass them onto others. The point was, has been, and continues to be that if one learns to accept all as present with love and acts in love, one will see the blessings and feel happy. I finally did benefit from shifting and correcting my believe system to embrace all as God has given to me rather than questioning it.

Regardless of what mood you are in this Valentine’s Day, being deeply grateful for all the blessings presently existing in your life will bring love to your heart immediately. Remind yourself that your true love should be You and all your blessings. The saying “love thyself” is simple yet profound as it is the truth. Do not wait for external love to feel love in your heart. Love is all around you. Only then can you love the world and the world will love you back for shining bright. With these thoughts, here goes my ‘love’ story…

During Carnival 1985, Heinz and I first met in the city circle Sülz within Cologne on line 7 subway. He caught my eyes quickly as he was cute and yummy, dressed up almost looking like a Viking with his spiky hairs, carefully styled to stand up. He was adorable. Heinz was accompanied by his class mates. A guy named Frank who was an outspoken gay man from his group asked for my comb to tease up his hair. I quickly learned that they were all attending a party that night that I too was going to as well. Common friends introduced us and to say the least, our relationship has continued  for 33 years.

Both him and I have been assessing our relationship as our only choice with our limitations and prospects based on our believe system. So destiny made us stay together for a solid 26 year ever since we sat foot here in the States. Initially my ‘happy go lucky’ attitude at that age just wanted to have fun and didn’t judge him. However, I recall I quickly started judging as I was taking into consideration many ugly voices and opinions that would leave me unhappy with my choice. I am Persian, he is German, I am adventurous, he tends to hate taking risks, I am totally into communication and evaluation while having my head into everything, he is mostly minding his business taking care of things, I am curious and he likes the known and sticks to it, and on and on and on and on. You get the picture! The list of our differences between us were too staggering to ignore. So naturally with all my being I pushed to someday get out of it once I feel ready as in my head I continued to tell myself that we are too different to make anything work. I had tried for that many years with no avail. So I thought I was clever by at least preparing myself while bitching for the leap jump. His less than expected behaviors continued to confirm to me that he was completely wrong for me and that I must get out. So I would portray that too and as law of attraction works, which is any repeated thoughts and feelings are send signals to our universe, expressing what we want, insisted in my head that I must repel him. So I finally did strategies my way out.

However, come to find out that I was so wrong! He has been the perfect match for me. After I tried to finally find peace, I discovered through deep evaluations how he has shaped me into the woman that I am today and how much I appreciate his friendship and loyalty. Compared to the men I have ran into in an effort to find proper love, he is an angel and a gentlemen with a kind heart, just not the picture perfect man as society, including me, pictures nor expects. Our separation  forced me to remain focused on what has made us work rather why we haven’t. Now, I appreciate how it all transpired to our benefits even more as I know we both will be better human beings due to our personal sacrifices taken out of love, to both our dismays we did act in love. It’s pretty clear that it all happened to our benefits because knowingly or unknowingly we chose the path of love vs hate. So never underestimate the power of love. The longevity, built memories, and lessons learned as well as taught are invaluable and irreplaceable experiences of my life. So is his friendship. These are examples of our God given blessings that we ignore due to our wrong believe systems. It’s a form of displaying ungratefulness and I for one will never again fail to count and appreciate my blessings.

Too remaining with him protected me from experiencing what I am convinced I would have experienced in life if I had followed external voices [hate] vs my heart that loved him. As we know most men cannot help it than to be a natural predator always seeking to attract. The attraction is at times even forceful on vulnerable females. Their biology has equipped them to hunt for the best possible bait out there and thereof they cannot stop complying with that unless they learn to control themselves. That same mindset will eventually cause them to be bored sexually with what they have and due to their need to pursue variety in life, they unknowingly damage their village and women have even gotten more uglier at times to out beat this damaging behavior. Because of me disliking to deal with that ugliness nor caring to manage/tame it, I would have gone rogue and repelled a traditional man, woman union to embrace a non traditional lifestyle [lesbian] out of fear to be disappointed with the love men could ever offer. For years my logic would question my love for men as everything kept confirming that women are more beautiful internally than men ever could be. I had seen that so many men lusting and chasing after sex and power, abusing their resources [dogs, car, money, friends, career, looks, kids, anything to appeal] within their communities to just attend to their own need which is the natural need to conquer and remain powerful.  I didn’t want to be part of that ever. Because of this discrepancy, logic [women are fairer] not meeting my desires [wanting to experience love with a man], I continued to engage in self-sabotaging behaviors. Self-sabotage is the same as hating oneself. Naturally that self hate affected not only me but my community as well. I thought there is something wrong with me for repelling the idea of homosexuality and had convinced myself that I was a bad and calculated female who had no other choice than to embrace what I was being forced into embracing due to presented dynamics!? But the truth is that I always loved beautiful minds but that doesn’t necessarily needs to convince me to also sexually embrace someone with a beautiful mind. Fact remains that I could never ever engage in any sexual act with a woman. So naturally Heinz was the perfect suitor that God put on my path. Again choosing path of love with lots of agony and ups and downs all these years turns out to be a better choice in God’s eyes as he paid us back despite believing that we have been doomed and destined to live a life of agony. Interesting toss and turn.

Regretfully, that truth is still being questioned by spectators surrounding us as it has been identified by unspoken standard expectations set into place by our society and culture that a love relationship must meet certain standards in order to be assessed as normal. That’s bullshit. Always listen to your heart as it speaks love and forget about the set ugly standards. We live in times where we need to break boundaries to reach new shores to enrich our life’s. Repel anything that’s hateful no matter what standardsf are preaching! Him and I have worked out as a union indeed because of our differences and have kept each other protected in life. I am happy to testify that I am clear about my love and appreciation for all as it is today. I hope so will you as life is sweeter and easier once we stop our doubts and resistance to the truth as it is.

HAPPY VALENTIN”S DAY. Make it life changing! This year it correlates with Lent, Ash Wednesday. A great time to take on new habits and adopt new mindsets to set yourself free. May love always fill your heart and soul and not just on this day.

Love and Blessings ❤️

Salome

 

 

Weight-Loss Journey

Losing weight is a top resolution for New Year and as most of us have experienced, our good intentions fade away as regular life takes over by the end of January. I have been there so many times. And what can one do besides adopting the same old standards as last year and pretending to be happy as it seems impossible to reach for an ideal outcome now. But don’t let failures stop you as giving up pursuing your goals is like never taking the first step to a journey that makes life an adventure. Do yourself a favor and remain confident that weight-loss or other feasible goals are achievable with the fitting tools and strategies. With that mindset, “where there is a will, there is a way”, I took many attempts of first steps and finally did accomplish my weight-loss goal!

My obesity started as a child. I was born fat and continued to get fatter for many reasons. To say the least, my childhood experience left me unfulfilled and thereof I would replace the missing emotional stimulation with food consumption as it offered variety and love that lacked in my world. Too did I not welcome the dismays and dysfunctions of society and my family. Their false standards pushed me to become rebellious just to refuse my compliance. In hindsight I know I was protecting myself. It took me many tries and failures to make it finally work. Almost 50 years to understand what had transpired, how the journey shaped me, and to finally achieve a comfortable weight. Having lived and experienced life as an overweight individual in this times has been quite tricky, painful, yet has enriched my life so much that I am now grateful for having had that experience in life to talk about. The wisdom gained for a hardship that I was destined to experience has been indeed a blessing in disguise. So never underestimate and dismiss the powers of your horrible experiences in life as they carry deep lessons that will make you a better person in life if you learn them to improve your game in life.

Without going into all the ugly details, my childhood upbringings led to more dysfunctional and frustrating life experiences. Years of agony caused me to balloon up to 360 pounds by age 30 . All my efforts to control my hunger or weight failed year after year. Life was getting to be unbearable with the consequences of experiencing it as an obese woman. No one really could understand nor feel the pain I was subjected to experience life in a fat-suit, specially in this narcissistic culture. I felt so alone and wanted to give up at times trying. At times my life was meaningless as the ugliness was overwhelmingly painful and I would feel worthless cause I didn’t fit in. We all pretend not to notice and at times even fail to acknowledge anyone’s existence besides our own. It’s in alignment with self-love that is being brainwashed, preached, and conditioned into us. And other times we do empathize with other people’s sufferings, yet refrain from caring cause being nosy or sticking one’s head in other people’s business is assessed as impolite. If we only take care of our own interests and are courteous and cordial, do we believe we are good. Anyone who questions that mindset, we chose to ignore and dismiss as it is unfitting. But I know that I know that it was wrong of all my surroundings to ignore my soul’s pain while growing up. As we know brain is not fully developed until age 25. All the feedback from my close circle that should have helped me in life to assume the right path, didn’t, cause they too themselves were messed up emotionally and mentally. Which I didn’t know back then. However, my reaction to this level of superficiality pushed me into self sabotaging behaviors with ripple effects. The results were never ending loops of failures, stress, and pain. Thank God there was my grandma. She was my only cheerleader in life. I will for always be grateful for her. But poor thing, was injured herself and needed help as well. Revolution of my country, Iran, had led all her off-springs, including her grand-kids, to be spread in Sweden and Germany. I ended up all the way in United States. She couldn’t be there always for me. We talked hours and hours over the phone yet it still was lonely and I had to make my own life experiences. But I was determined to find out how, even more since I continued to observe my own sufferings and all others around me. My grandma had thought me to believe in myself, that someday I will make it. Her sanity too was being questioned by others within my circle but I am glad my heart and brain ignored cause she was the only one who had somewhat accomplished something in life despite lacking support and continued to offer her unconditional love. So she became my role model. She was right. I searched and I found my way. Today I know that I know that law of attraction manifested my wish, to loose weight and achieve to be fit in life. It was a dream that I lived for all my life.

The journey in my opinion could have been better yet it ended up being quite lengthy because I lacked the needed support. So I resorted to gastric by-pass surgery as I was desperate. There was no other way at that time that I could have conquered anything. All my tries to do it right would fail. Now it’s clear it was destined  to happen that way. By gully, I had tried everything, including exercise, in an attempt to get it under control but I had royally failed. Since gastric by-pass had shown a fairly good chance of getting one’s hunger under control, it was my only chance to achieve a possible fit body. That’s all I ever wanted in my life. To stop lusting over food to a degree that it would replace all my emotional needs, be it good or bad. All my heart ever wanted was and still is to experience life in all it has to offer and not just focus on my miserable existence, consuming excessive food to numb my pain only to create bigger pain. A never ending cycle that was finally stopped in its track with getting my hunger under control.

It was July 2001 that I finally had my surgery. Not only is September 11th a memorable event of that year but it will be a memorable year to me because it truly changed my life for ever. To list the positive outcomes of my decision to have that surgery which was assessed as dangerous at that time, it truly curbed my hunger. I was no longer a slave to food. A sense of freedom from those ties. I also lost rapidly 100 lbs. Finally I could focus on my life again. However, I never learned to properly nourish my body to achieve true health nor a real comfortable weight. But it was something, finally! A good start.

Of course I attempted again to be disciplined and aimed to loose the other 100 lbs to reach a comfortable weight but failed AGAIN. No wonder cause I repel being disciplined in general. So I thought Weight-watcher might work as it offers flexibility. But I didn’t care to occupy my life with meetings and points. It is almost a lifestyle that I care less to adopt. Atkins was doable yet injected so much fat through my liver and gallbladder that I got sick. The gallbladder pain stopped my progress as I had to give up that diet in an effort to normalize fat. Who knows!? If my gallbladder hadn’t acted up, I would have gotten uric acid in my blood and some major inflammations!? Jenny Craig too worked initially but failed eventually for me. Each time I would lose some weight, I would gain it back and more. Another cycle that I continued to experience years after years. Yo yo effect ha ha! Yes, I too was a victim. I was getting frustrated with my inability to accomplish balance. I asked why? Challenging myself to figure it out once for all helped me to come across resources, a variety of holistic nutrition diet types, to rev up my metabolism and heal my body.

It must be listed that prior to my journey, I had tried a few retreats in Germany to learn proper lifestyle changes, including implementing soup, salad, other liquid diets, hypnosis sessions, and many other holistic things to no avail. I suppose none of these methods were a true fit to my style. But all of them helped in my journey to discover what works and what doesn’t. That’s were the saying comes in, “enjoy the journey”. Unintentionally while driving myself crazy worrying and being unhappy living a miserable life, I focused on now and was determined to make it happen. I am glad my grandma had seen that quality of curiosity in me and encouraged me to stand my ground and remain focused on what I want, rather destroying myself with the crap things that sucked in my life. That mentality that I had inherited from her and she continued to encourage was my only solace and hope to make it.  She truly was an earth angel who blessed many people’s life who crossed her path. I am forever grateful as I would be nowhere pleasant without her. I am carrying her torch and as she said well, even more blessed cause I have all other available resources to do better passing on my wisdom to all receptive people than she ever could at her times. To this date thinking of the pain and hardship she experienced just to sustain a life as a disadvantaged woman breaks my heart and brings tears to my face. If she was able to do it with her limited resources and still survived the painful life path she had to endure, then what the hell was wrong with me. It truly helped me to get it together. Too did she always pray and I would always question her sanity to pray. She would always say that God does not need us to pray to him. It is us who need the hope, calmness, and solace this practice provides. She was absolutely right. I never understood but now know that there is a God who has given us many blessings, specially in our current times, and that he wants us to do good. It is, however, our choice to utilize them effectively and strategically to accomplish anything.

So never give up on your hopes and dreams as with the right strategies and practices and endurance they are possible!

Love and Blessings ❤️

Salome

 

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